Amanda’s Journey

Amanda was referred to Grimmon House due to her presenting risk of being sexually exploited in her community. For Amanda, this involved her exchanging sexual acts to receive gift cards in an attempt to meet her own needs. As she was experiencing conflicts at home with her mother it was also recommended that she access therapeutic supports to further develop her relationship building and communication skills as well. Amanda came to Grimmon House with personal intentions of wanting to further develop her “decision making skills, boundaries, self-control and listening skills”.

When Amanda came to the program she brought such a vibrant energy to the house that it was easy for staff to bond with her. Amanda often seemed eager to share her own personal experiences with others and to feel accepted by others. Whether this be through helping out another youth or spending one to one time with staff, it was evident that most of Amanda’s actions were an attempt to gain attention from others to feel valued. Part way through her recovery Amanda began home visits to give her an opportunity to spend time with her mother and to practice the skills she’d been developing at the program. It became clear during these visits that the remainder of Amanda’s recovery would be largely focused on supporting her in building a healthier relationship with her mother as they continued to experience conflicts regularly.

Over the six months that Amanda dedicated to achieving her own recovery goals she was able to develop upon many of skills she set out to improve. She began to recognize the importance of healthy personal boundaries, particularly by communicating her own needs in a healthier way. She often attempted to communicate more calmly with her mother during phone calls, visits, or program meetings showing great personal growth and maturity. As she became more confident in the relationships she developed at the program she also began to utilize more independent time, relying less on other’s acceptance to feel content. Despite staff’s attempts to reunite Amanda and her mother by providing them with various therapeutic supports, transitioning home ultimately was not an option for Amanda. Instead, she was connected with a family through the Foster Care program, where she has been residing since leaving our program. Amanda’s success can therefore be measured in the fact that she was able to stabilize in treatment, make healthier decisions surrounding her safety and peer group, she’s developed many valuable life skills to carry with her into adulthood, and she has the safety and security of the family environment from which she can receive the nurturance and support that she sought.

Six months later Amanda continues to accomplish success in her recovery and everyday life. She continues to reside with her foster family, attends therapy weekly, and attends mainstream school where she is excelling in her grades. Amanda has connected with a healthy peer group and enjoys community sports and activities. Amanda is aware of her risks of sexual exploitation and will reach out for support when she needs it. Amanda expresses that she feels happy, confident and is “enjoying life”. Amanda has developed strong relationships with some of her extended family members and continues to work towards rebuilding her relationship with her mom.

Youth Amanda, 16 years old

Grimmon House / Foster Care